Monday, May 02, 2011

About Marriage: " A Spiritual Life Grows as Love Finds Its Centre Beyond Ourselves."

"Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire." So said St Catherine of Siena whose festival day it is today. Marriage is intended to be a way in which man and woman help each other to become what God meant each one to be, their deepest and truest selves.

It is good that people in every continent are able to share in these celebrations because this is, as every wedding day should be, a day of hope.

In a sense every wedding is a royal wedding with the bride and the groom as king and queen of creation, making a new life together so that life can flow through them into the future.

A spiritual life grows as love finds its centre beyond ourselves. Faithful and committed relationships offer a door into the mystery of spiritual life in which we discover this; the more we give of self, the richer we become in soul; the more we go beyond ourselves in love, the more we become our true selves and our spiritual beauty is more fully revealed.

In marriage we are seeking to bring one another into fuller life. It is of course very hard to wean ourselves away from self-centredness. And people can dream of doing such a thing but the hope should be fulfilled it is necessary a solemn decision that, whatever the difficulties, we are committed to the way of generous love.

This leads to a family life which offers the best conditions in which the next generation can practise and exchange those gifts which can overcome fear and division and incubate the coming world of the Spirit, whose fruits are love and joy and peace.

~ Arch Bishop of Canterbury, Rowan Williams, wedding sermon Prince William and Kate Middleton


The darling homemaker said...

I love this brought a question to my mind, what if the couple is not married, and just been living together as common law marriage...would the same values still apply?

Alexandra said...

Perhaps, but I'm Catholic, so I'm probably the wrong person to ask. ;) Our marriages are sacramental vocations. As marrieds we live our spiritual life through the sacrament of marriage, and this sermon was Anglican - just a hares breath away from Catholic. I wouldn't know how to live any other way, but I've seen people do it - love each other deeply in a common law marriage. I just wouldn't know, couldn't say how they come at it from that direction.